Grief Counselling Online
Grief and loss often come together as a package. Where there is great loss, grief follows regardless of the gravity of the situation. One of the most common types of grief is bereavement which is caused by the death of a loved one. Online grief counselling can help.
When one experiences grief and loss, their behaviour, physical and mental health, thoughts and emotions, daily routine, and even their outlook on life are affected. People who go through grief tend to lose control over these aspects of their well being as they put their focus on the process of mourning.
There is no specific timeline for the process of grieving. You are allowed to grieve even if it has been years since you have experienced the loss. There is also no definite way to deal with the pain it comes with. However, crying, dwelling on regret, yearning, reminiscing, looking for distractions, isolating oneself, shutting the world out, and even avoiding the process altogether are all forms of grieving and known as coping mechanisms.
Grieving can be a different process for each individual. Yet, there are some stages which most grieving people may go through. Renowned grief researcher, Elizabeth Kübler-Ross, discusses the following stages of grief:
- As the very first stage of grief, denial is mostly connected to shock and being unable to recognise the pain of loss.
- The person usually refuses to believe that this is happening in reality.
- A person who is in denial may be able to cope, however, the danger is in when the reality of the situation sinks in.
- One of the strongest emotions one feels during grief is anger.
- Anger kicks in when a person is no longer denying that the situation is real.
- The person may start becoming angry at themselves for not doing more to prevent the thing from happening.
- As difficult as it is to feel and act angry toward everything and everyone around you, it is normal. It is often a reflection of something that is rooted in care and love.
- As denial and anger subside, one starts to bargain with life, with God, and even with the pain itself.
- This is the part where the person starts thinking of what “could have been”, and wish for a chance to go back in time and change things.
- Bargaining happens because we somehow believe that there could be another way to deal with grief, or another way to change the reality of loss.
- After denial, anger, and bargaining, depression comes next, and it’s one of the most difficult stages of grief.
- Depression is when the pain and sadness get deeper, almost to the point of emptiness.
- Being depressed after experiencing loss is normal no matter how difficult it may be.
- Finally, the person will experience acceptance. However, it doesn’t always mean being okay or forgetting the pain.
- Moving on from the loss of a loved one is a process that doesn’t happen overnight.
- But acceptance means that you’re ready to move forward despite the lingering pain. It also means that hope is back and you can look forward to the future once again.
- Acceptance during grief means believing that better days are coming.
Here are some ways to help yourself deal better with grief and loss:
- Communicate with your family and friends
- Allow yourself to feel the emotions
- Don’t beat yourself up for taking too long to heal
- Look after yourself by making your physical health a priority
- Develop new hobbies that you enjoy.
One of the most effective ways to deal with grief and loss is by talking to a professional. Counselling provides a safe space to process the emotional pain and find new meaning to the loss.
Rural Wellbeing makes it convenient for you to get the help you need without compromising the quality of the service you receive.
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